Perhaps this is a more interesting question. What cliches in romances/erotica do you hate most?

One that many people cite is a heroine who thinks she’s ugly–or at least not beautiful enough. I personally wouldn’t call that “cliche”. How many women can boast that they’re perfectly satisfied with how they look? Especially ones who would like to be in a relationship yet cannot find someone? I would think that a woman looking for love but being constantly rejected would have self-esteem issues. Then how would it be deemed “cliche” for her to think she must be lacking in some way? I think I would call that logical characterization. When someone you find attractive shows interest, wouldn’t that be a little validation? (Or damn, even a little miracle to some people?)

It’s difficult to find that mutual spark with someone. I can imagine a heroine’s disbelief at actually finding it with the hero.

Or how about the cliche where a heroine’s only faults are minor and therefore not really faults? “I’m so terrible at cooking!” or “I’m clumsy and fall down a lot! or “I’m so absent-minded and I leave things all over the castle!” Are these merely attempts to make an otherwise perfect heroine seem more humble and realistic? Well, a romance or erotica novel is kind of meant to be a “Mary Sue” (or “Gary Stu”) for the reader to slip into the role of the hero/heroine, right? Would you want to imagine yourself in a role where you are extremely overbearing and think you know the right way to do everything? How is that likable?

Is there only a short list of “faults” to choose from then? Must the author attempt to present an otherwise unforgivable fault in a way that makes it seem less censurable? What if the hero is an unapologetic chauvinist? Even if the heroine turns his views around, how could any reader like him after knowing how he started out?

A “cliche” I personally hate is the “misunderstanding” where the hero and heroine think the absolute worst of each other for ten chapters just because they can’t have a five-minute conversation.

I’d like to know what you think, though. Which cliches in romances/erotica do you dislike the most?